I have always had a disdain for that word. I find a lot of people from your generation use it. My dad is in his early sixties. I’ll be 30 on Dec21. Growing up, if gay were ever present in any context my dad would say it. “Oh he’s a sissy” he would say. I wore eyeshadow and eyeliner on thanksgiving to commemorate me coming out to my parents in 2018 and they were very upset. I was humored. They have a long way to go I believe. But I see progress. The word sissy came up that day and I confronted my dad on his usage of it on me in high school. (another story) The back and fourth we had was almost as intense as how it was when I first came out to the both of them. Only this time I possessed confidence in my stance on who I am as a queer person. Confidence I initially did not have 4 years ago. My dad was shaking nervously bc of how hard I challenged him on his views of homosexuality being “unnatural.” “Why are you shaking like that?” I asked him. He blamed the shakes on age instead of me unraveling the fallacies in his Christian upbringing. It’s an odd relationship we have. He loves me but the man is struggling bc of the environment he was raised in. I’m going to have a conversation with my dad about that word sometime soon. This article has motivated me.
I have always had a disdain for that word. I find a lot of people from your generation use it. My dad is in his early sixties. I’ll be 30 on Dec21. Growing up, if gay were ever present in any context my dad would say it. “Oh he’s a sissy” he would say. I wore eyeshadow and eyeliner on thanksgiving to commemorate me coming out to my parents in 2018 and they were very upset. I was humored. They have a long way to go I believe. But I see progress. The word sissy came up that day and I confronted my dad on his usage of it on me in high school. (another story) The back and fourth we had was almost as intense as how it was when I first came out to the both of them. Only this time I possessed confidence in my stance on who I am as a queer person. Confidence I initially did not have 4 years ago. My dad was shaking nervously bc of how hard I challenged him on his views of homosexuality being “unnatural.” “Why are you shaking like that?” I asked him. He blamed the shakes on age instead of me unraveling the fallacies in his Christian upbringing. It’s an odd relationship we have. He loves me but the man is struggling bc of the environment he was raised in. I’m going to have a conversation with my dad about that word sometime soon. This article has motivated me.
With you in queerdom!